It’s my choice—not yours

“You’re trying to trap me.” -my boyfriend

“Your life is over.” -my dad

“I don’t know how you are going to get yourself out of this mess.”
-my best friend

“You need to have an abortion.” -my boyfriend, again

I didn’t have any support when I found out I was pregnant right after high school. With no support it was also hard for me to find confidence. I felt alone and I began to doubt myself.

-I had no job, zero income
-I still lived with my parents
-I had no goals, no plans.

Naturally, abortion seemed like a choice to consider. But through researching abortion, I changed my outlook. My baby was growing everyday—before I even knew I was pregnant my baby was growing and thriving. His tiny heart was already beating, he was starting to develop limbs and then fingers and toes.

The abortion pill would starve my tiny baby who was working so hard to just become a person ready to be born. It seemed so cruel to end a person’s life over doubts others were putting in my mind.

Something came over me that night as I stayed up late reading about abortions which turned into reading about my developing baby, I grew stronger. I didn’t need approval from others. I didn’t need them to tell me I could go through with my pregnancy.

Being pregnant wasn’t a problem. It was the beginning of a new part of my life. I went through with my pregnancy. I had a healthy (and big) baby boy. He changed my life. To think that I considered ending his because I didn’t believe in myself is crazy.

To those who doubted me, I proved them all wrong. I didn’t trap my boyfriend. Actually I broke up with him after our baby was born because he didn’t step up. He wasn’t the dad that my son deserved. And breaking up with him turned out to be one of the smartest decisions of my life.

My life wasn’t over like my dad predicted. Actually, this is when my life really started. I had this new found ambition. I’ve never had such motivation before. I wanted to be a role model for my son.

To my best friend, the only mess I was in was letting others bring me down or think they knew what was best for me, I choose the path for my life. I didn’t choose to get pregnant but I am so thankful I did. I don’t believe I would be in the position I am today if I didn’t have my baby.